For the most part my summer was spent inside an office doing mundane tasks; Australian comedian Steve Hughes calls this 'working maximum hours for minimum wage'. Never one to feel too hard done by I decided to take my nephews to an old haunt I frequented many a time as a youngling with my Grandfather, Hunstanton. It was relatively close by with the changeable weather in mind and good enough for their first visit to an English seaside.
An early rise was compounded by a bit of late night research and the sudden realisation I hadn't sorted out a lunch for my better half, who being a coeliac (allergy to wheat and gluten) makes it hard to find somewhere to eat out without having first checked out the eateries. The last time I checked it was fish and chips and not a lot more.
The journey was uneventful, I had the pleasure of my eldest nephews company, who requested the mandatory 'air in the night' by Phil Collins to kick start the journey. With a captive audience I decided to broaden his musical horizon and wean him off JLS and reacquaint him with Bob Marley, Nirvana, Queens of the Stone Age, Eric Clapton and Led Zeppelin. He was not impressed.
When we arrived it was clear to see not much had changed in the 14 or 15 years since I last visited the town. The old car park seemed to have the same old vans parked in it, with the same faces walking around the same market. We headed down to the sea straight off and I watched as the ever entertaining youngest of my nephews chased the waves for the first time.
The waves were not in the same league as those of Bells Beach but it was fun for the younglings.
The elder stateswoman of the group wanted to have breakfast before heading down to Old Hunstanton so we elected to find the old cafe we had always gone to for a cup of tea and some toast; I still have vivid memories of hearing the news there that Ayrton Senna had died at Imola in 1994, sat with my juice. Moving up the hill the old cafe was nowhere to be seen, it had gone, but another promising little family place was situated across the road so we gave it a chance and took a look at the menu.
The waves were not in the same league as those of Bells Beach but it was fun for the younglings.
The elder stateswoman of the group wanted to have breakfast before heading down to Old Hunstanton so we elected to find the old cafe we had always gone to for a cup of tea and some toast; I still have vivid memories of hearing the news there that Ayrton Senna had died at Imola in 1994, sat with my juice. Moving up the hill the old cafe was nowhere to be seen, it had gone, but another promising little family place was situated across the road so we gave it a chance and took a look at the menu.
As my family filed in through the door I noticed a young family already sat in the corner with their breakfast fresh on the table, a man with his girlfriend and 2 children. He was no older than me and his partner a few years younger perhaps, he had his top off and was covered head to toe in tattoos. Having had one or two myself in the past I am a fan of good art work on a human canvas, but this man was sporting St George's Cross, a British Bull dog and 'Made in England' on his leg.
My family deliberated at the till on what to eat and I turned to wait outside, the atmosphere seemed to get a little tense.
I do not think my family had particularly noticed but an uncomfortable feeling over came me and within a couple of minutes the young family were hurrying out of the cafe. Was it something I said? Was there a sign I had missed that said 'no blacks, no Irish?' No, but it is something I have experienced on more than one occasion in the past, I imagine they must have truly believed whatever they had read in the Daily Mail that week. As a child I remember occasions where people would stare at my mother for having a child considered 'half caste' and later of 'mixed race or heritage' but had never thought anything more about it since then until I saw the reaction to my nephews, their mother and I.
Why should I have, are we not all of mixed heritage? After all this is the 21st century...
What were our crimes I wondered? Other than my sister sporting the Hijab and myself a wild, Hendrix-Esq Afro? Nothing, other than not being white in a country that now, in some ways, views Muslims and Islam the way some people used to view Black people and Jews.
These are strained times for all of us regardless of our cultural upbringing, the only real difference between any one of us. The cold war has been replaced by the war on terror and putting with it a whole new section of the worlds population in the cross hairs of people that feed and are fed on fear. It is this very fear that will no doubt lead my nephews, and many other children of a similar age, into a new era of hate that no one will be truly able to explain the reason for why, other than 'they just do'.
I wish I had asked the gentleman why he felt the need to take his family out of the cafe but at the time I felt he was not the sort to debate and held the door for him as they shuffled past. I missed an opportunity to offer a positive experience to him and his family of people that are different in some ways, yet alike in so many ways more.
It left me wondering whether this is how it will always be, with my nephews blissfully unaware of the animosity and mistrust in the world around them until it hits them in the face, perhaps quite literally as it did with me, with this man, his children and others like them growing up to fear, needlessly, someone based purely on the fact that their bodies have a little more melanin than them or that their way of showing their faith to God differs?
We are shaped by our environments but I am an optimist, reformed and hope for a better world, one that will eventually learn to see through the propaganda and hype played out to us by the media and lead to us embracing each other as a common species, not as individual races.
My family deliberated at the till on what to eat and I turned to wait outside, the atmosphere seemed to get a little tense.
I do not think my family had particularly noticed but an uncomfortable feeling over came me and within a couple of minutes the young family were hurrying out of the cafe. Was it something I said? Was there a sign I had missed that said 'no blacks, no Irish?' No, but it is something I have experienced on more than one occasion in the past, I imagine they must have truly believed whatever they had read in the Daily Mail that week. As a child I remember occasions where people would stare at my mother for having a child considered 'half caste' and later of 'mixed race or heritage' but had never thought anything more about it since then until I saw the reaction to my nephews, their mother and I.
Why should I have, are we not all of mixed heritage? After all this is the 21st century...
What were our crimes I wondered? Other than my sister sporting the Hijab and myself a wild, Hendrix-Esq Afro? Nothing, other than not being white in a country that now, in some ways, views Muslims and Islam the way some people used to view Black people and Jews.
These are strained times for all of us regardless of our cultural upbringing, the only real difference between any one of us. The cold war has been replaced by the war on terror and putting with it a whole new section of the worlds population in the cross hairs of people that feed and are fed on fear. It is this very fear that will no doubt lead my nephews, and many other children of a similar age, into a new era of hate that no one will be truly able to explain the reason for why, other than 'they just do'.
I wish I had asked the gentleman why he felt the need to take his family out of the cafe but at the time I felt he was not the sort to debate and held the door for him as they shuffled past. I missed an opportunity to offer a positive experience to him and his family of people that are different in some ways, yet alike in so many ways more.
It left me wondering whether this is how it will always be, with my nephews blissfully unaware of the animosity and mistrust in the world around them until it hits them in the face, perhaps quite literally as it did with me, with this man, his children and others like them growing up to fear, needlessly, someone based purely on the fact that their bodies have a little more melanin than them or that their way of showing their faith to God differs?
We are shaped by our environments but I am an optimist, reformed and hope for a better world, one that will eventually learn to see through the propaganda and hype played out to us by the media and lead to us embracing each other as a common species, not as individual races.




